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Annie’s Mailbox: Grooming habit sounds like fetish
By Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar
Dear Annie: I have been dating “Edgar,” a 37-year-old man, for about four months. Everything is great, but I have one question. Edgar likes to groom me. This means he looks over my skin, face and body and tries to remove any blemishes.
He does all this in a very loving and respectful way, but I think it’s very foreign to me. Edgar says it shows he is taking care of me. I love him very much and don’t want to break up over this. I am just curious about such a practice. What do you say?
Want to Know in
West Yarmouth, Mass.
Dear Want to Know: Edgar has a fetish. Either that or he’s a little closer to his primate ancestors than most of us. Still, as with all fetishes, if this one doesn’t particularly bother you, then it isn’t a problem. To each his own.
Dear Annie: This is in response to the letter from “A Brokenhearted Mother,” whose son injures himself repeatedly. You said he might be suffering from Munchausen syndrome. The medically correct diagnostic terminology is “factitious disorder.”
Next, if the patient is hospitalized, it should be authorized through his primary care physician and followed by psychiatric care—either a psychosomatic medicine consult (also known as consulate liaison services) or preferably by the psychiatrist and other mental health care providers.
If he is admitted again, it should be through the same physician and hospital team. Lastly, direct confrontation with a patient with this disorder will often result in the patient switching doctors, which is bad, as the new physician will not have the patient’s history and will presume there is an underlying medical issue—which means the primary physician, psychiatrist and clinical psychologist should all be involved, and an “escape” statement for the patient needs to be in place to indirectly deal with the hospital admission, so as to not lose the patient to follow-up care. By the way, accidental death is a significant risk, but more importantly, so is death due to multiple unneeded medical procedures.
Shane B. Russell-Jenkins,
M.D. Psychiatry,
Yuma, Ariz.
Dear Dr. Russell-Jenkins: Thank you for your expertise. We certainly hope his family can help him get the appropriate care.
Dear Annie: With your column’s national potential for good, how disappointing that you would choose to capitulate to our narcissistic culture and tell “In Disbelief” to attend a baby shower held for a child born to an unmarried woman. Your comment not to “punish the baby for the parents’ life choices,” misplaces responsibility, which belongs to the pair who conceived the child. Why reward them, as you suggest?
Even More Disbelief
Dear Disbelief: Baby gifts may benefit the parents, but they are primarily for the care of the child, and no matter how that child was conceived, it deserves to have a healthy start in life.
Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to annies mailbox@comcast.net, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, P.O. Box 118190, Chicago, IL 60611. Copyright 2008 Creators Syndicate Inc.
He does all this in a very loving and respectful way, but I think it’s very foreign to me. Edgar says it shows he is taking care of me. I love him very much and don’t want to break up over this. I am just curious about such a practice. What do you say?
Want to Know in
West Yarmouth, Mass.
Dear Want to Know: Edgar has a fetish. Either that or he’s a little closer to his primate ancestors than most of us. Still, as with all fetishes, if this one doesn’t particularly bother you, then it isn’t a problem. To each his own.
Dear Annie: This is in response to the letter from “A Brokenhearted Mother,” whose son injures himself repeatedly. You said he might be suffering from Munchausen syndrome. The medically correct diagnostic terminology is “factitious disorder.”
First, this patient needs a referral to a psychiatrist and psychologist. As this patient is potentially a danger to himself due to the psychiatric condition, a court order may require him to see a therapist as well. All these mental health specialists will work in concert with a single primary care physician. That physician should be the only point of contact for this patient. Every doctor, surgeon or medical caregiver needs to be informed of this man’s severe illness. It is life threatening.
Next, if the patient is hospitalized, it should be authorized through his primary care physician and followed by psychiatric care—either a psychosomatic medicine consult (also known as consulate liaison services) or preferably by the psychiatrist and other mental health care providers.
If he is admitted again, it should be through the same physician and hospital team. Lastly, direct confrontation with a patient with this disorder will often result in the patient switching doctors, which is bad, as the new physician will not have the patient’s history and will presume there is an underlying medical issue—which means the primary physician, psychiatrist and clinical psychologist should all be involved, and an “escape” statement for the patient needs to be in place to indirectly deal with the hospital admission, so as to not lose the patient to follow-up care. By the way, accidental death is a significant risk, but more importantly, so is death due to multiple unneeded medical procedures.
Shane B. Russell-Jenkins,
M.D. Psychiatry,
Yuma, Ariz.
Dear Dr. Russell-Jenkins: Thank you for your expertise. We certainly hope his family can help him get the appropriate care.
Dear Annie: With your column’s national potential for good, how disappointing that you would choose to capitulate to our narcissistic culture and tell “In Disbelief” to attend a baby shower held for a child born to an unmarried woman. Your comment not to “punish the baby for the parents’ life choices,” misplaces responsibility, which belongs to the pair who conceived the child. Why reward them, as you suggest?
Even More Disbelief
Dear Disbelief: Baby gifts may benefit the parents, but they are primarily for the care of the child, and no matter how that child was conceived, it deserves to have a healthy start in life.
Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to annies mailbox@comcast.net, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, P.O. Box 118190, Chicago, IL 60611. Copyright 2008 Creators Syndicate Inc.
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